Week 10 Blog

     This week we talked about finances and fatherhood. Both are important when it comes to have a strong family. It is important in a marriage relationship to have good communication when it comes to finances, when couples can discuss this topic it shows the strength of their relationship and also helps the family be smart with their money, and fatherhood plays an important role in this specific aspect of the relationship and in many many others. 

    I would first start with one of my own thoughts when it comes to fatherhood. We talked a lot about how having a father in the home can affect children in the future and things along those lines, I asked if we were including father figures in these situations and I was told no, soo everything I talk about in this blog will be addressing biological fathers, but I do think it is very important to recognize father figures for people out there, maybe a grandpa, uncle, family friend. I know I sometimes take having a father for granted but I know a lot of good kids out there that turned out the way they did without a father because the had a father figure in their life. That being said, a father figure cannot replace a true father. There are a couple issues that come from children not having a father in their life. Some were gender specific but any child could struggle with anything with or without a father. Males without a father have a higher probability of being involved in crime, and woman have a higher probability of having multiple sex partners. It is really sad to see children with these struggles, some have fathers but there is a good chance they don't, and we should never be too quick to judge because we don't know what is happening in their family life. 

    Now to talk about finance. Finance and fathers go hand in hand because for the most part the father is the breadwinner, or the one that has a job to provide for the family. First we talked about the comparison between divorce rates and how many of them had to do with financial issues. There were multiple different statistics we talked about it, some said eighty percent of divorces stemmed from financial issues, and another said sixty-five percent, so we didn't really come to a conclusion, but these results do show that more than fifty divorces stem from financial issues. Since we don't have a solid result of this I want to instead discuss what financial problems could, in my opinion, lead to a divorce. As a father they have the role to provide for the family. Yes, in some circumstances the mother may be the one to work and there is nothing wrong with that, but the father is expected to provide for the family. So if he is not fulfilling that purpose and him and his wife don't have a discussion on what can be done to fix it the wife will get sick of living the life of barely having anything while watching her husband do nothing to fix it.

    On the other hand the father does not want to be a workaholic. We should recognize where our attention should be. Our attention should never be on the money. Yes money is necessary in a family, but the attention should be on providing for the family not on the money itself. Fathers working too much can also lead to divorce and that is why it is important to find the right balance of spending time with family and working.

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